"Arnost From Amsterdam Reaches Across the Atlantic for Advice"---------------------------------
A fair number of students have proven challenging across my years of teaching, yet few in the particular manner of my MA candidate Sophie. Sophie is delightful yet unable to do herself justice academically. On the one hand, she is warm, kind, witty, generous with the other students, and highly intelligent - brilliant, I would say; she has offered original ideas even at this stage. Truly, she has a magpie's mind and can be disarmingly insightful. In addition, she moved from America to Amsterdam on her own initiative and means, faced considerable stumbling-blocks with courage and resilience, and often when we speak I may as well be conversing with a peer. However, she seems incapable of submitting her work on time, though I have pleaded with her even to compromise her standards should it mean meeting a deadline. Once Sophie asked to meet with me so she might apologize for having completed an important essay several days late. As the essay would have received an A had she not been penalized for lateness, I asked if something had perhaps happened to preclude punctuality. She responded in the negative, saying she simply could not organize her thoughts, and so it was right she received the penalty. I admire Sophie's integrity but it is evident all is not quite well. I can see how terribly she feels for failing to meet deadlines. At times she appears rather pale and drawn. She is also markedly, even painfully, thin. I know she is currently grappling with difficulties, though I am unaware of their precise nature, and I realise I can do nothing apart from encourage her substantial intellectual gifts. Yet I cannot help but think, What a pity. She could bring such gifts to the discipline should she pull herself together - and she desperately wants to do. How do others encourage students such as Sophie?
Jennifer's response:
It sounds like she is showing several signs of clinical depression. (Late papers, inability to concentrate, painfully thin, lacking energy.) The kindest thing to do is not ignore it. It's not going to go away on it's own. I would recommend that you go on the web and print out a depression screening test. (Try depressionscreening.org). Convey your concerns about her missed deadlines and inability to concentrate, and sit with her while she fills out the test. Then walk together to the student counseling center so that she see the place, and can make an appointment if she wishes. Too many times, faculty think that students problems will go away with a pep talk or with some "tough love." If the student is suffering from clinical depression, she needs medical help. Sophie is probably dealing with an organic, biological issue. Not a will power issue. Unless she gets medical help, chances are great that she won't be able to make the most of her tremendous potential, and she'll continue to feel guilty about not being able to pull herself up from her bootstraps.
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You can check out the other responses here.
P.S. A day after the responses were posted, a real life "Sophie" wrote RYS to say that as a result of reading the responses to Arnost from Amsterdam's query, she decided to seek medical treatment for her depression. Her inspiring story is here.
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The Times of London published a similar depression questionnaire today. It was compiled by the Royal College of Psychiatrists.
1. Do you feel unhappy most of the time?
2. Are you finding it hard to cope with things that used to be manageable?
3. Have you lost interest and enjoyment in activities that you used to enjoy?
4. Are you finding it harder to make decisions?
5. Are you having trouble sleeping?
6. Have you experienced a loss of appetite or have you lost weight?
7. Are you feeling worn out and tired?
8. Do you lack self-confidence in areas that you used to feel competent in?
9. Have you been avoiding other people or friends?
10. Do you ever contemplate suicide as a way out of your problems?
If you're worried you may be suffering from depression visit your GP
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